BRAVE APPEAL OF AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN, CHANGE NOT MY INDEPENDENCY
BRAVE APPEAL OF AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN – I am attracted to you because of your fierce independence, you are a go-getter and I love the fact that you have your own thing going on for you.
GUY IN THE RELATIONSHIP SIX MONTHS LATER: I don’t like this your attitude, you are always doing too much, your personality is too dominant, you can’t just agree with anything I say.
If you’ve managed to do anything tangible in this life (build a business, move ahead in your career etc), you probably have your version of this story.
The idea of an independent woman is alluring, but to get the point of true independence you will most likely possess qualities that will threaten BASIC PEOPLE.
You will be assertive, stubborn, inquisitive, curious, you will challenge authority, societal norms, you will never say yes without asking the right questions.
Fortunately or unfortunately you will never be able to turn these traits off. These traits threaten traditional patriarchal relationships were men think they should be the sole decision makers and should be respected because they have dicks. Dictatorial relationships were ‘because I said so” is the norm will never work for you because you will always expect your relationship to be a partnership. Don’t settle for less.
Dear Kings or whatever it is Y’all are going by these days if you want the dictatorial relationships you have come to expect, feel free to trail the path of the men who have come before you. Where educated men went to villages to marry uneducated naive women who aren’t bothered with changing the status quo and are just happy to be out of poverty.
They are ready to accept you for the lord and savior you think you are. There is no point trying to change an independent woman, she can smell your insecurity, she would eat you whole.
Source: Glory Osei